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So it’s the great almighty Valentines Day.

This is supposed to be a day for lovers, friends, and companions of every walk of life to express their their feelings with the passing of hearts, chocolates, and sweet kisses.

A day for well wishers to spring forth like human Tiggers giving praise to the great St Valentine (which by the way, no one even knows who that is for sure) and to be on best behavior to get a little lovin’ tonight…

Just a thought…

Advantages of Valentines:

Talk of love, family, future plans with that special someone.

Passing of well wisher messages, images, and mushy commentary throughout Stumbleupon, Mixx, Digg, Zoom, and just about every other Bloglines feed that we’re subscribed to.

Intimate dinners, passionate conversation, and a closeness with that special someone that you want so much to share your life with.

Hope in mass quantities…

A time of “Gosh, he really does care. She really is the one true gift. Is it possible that he’s the man that is to put that content smile on my face every morning even before my first cup of coffee?”

Disadvantages of Valentines:

Talk of love, family, future plans with that special someone.

Passing of well wisher messages, images, and mushy commentary throughout Stumbleupon, Mixx, Digg, Zoom, and just about every other Bloglines feed that we’re subscribed to.

Intimate dinners, passionate conversation, and a closeness with that special someone that you want so much to share your life with.

Hope in mass quantities…

A time of “Gosh, he really does care. She really is the one true gift. Is it possible that he’s the man that is to put that content smile on my face every morning even before my first cup of coffee?”

These things are wonderful to experience while the day is new and exciting. While you are still yet in a relationship that allows you to have faith in these things without doubt. Without fears of giving away parts of yourself that can be torn apart by deceit and the abuse of words of love and forever that are so freely spoken and so poorly acted upon into day 15 of February.

These things are so beautiful and so unbelievably spirit freeing for those that have not known the pain that can result from someone’s misuse of that trust. Once this disruption of trust has entered the picture, it takes a bite out of that perfect apple that once brought so much perfect and freeing beauty. It turns love into a thing to be doubted and cautioned. Analyzed and observed from a distance. Kept at bay until everything seems to fit into compartmentalized categories that quench the desire for validation and security.

Once deceit has rolled off of the tongue of even the most handsome wonderful mans/womans lips, it removes the innocence that the “L” word once possessed, making reciprocation difficult at best.

Once the word has been defiled, survival and defense mechanisms see it as the wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Has she/he been so heart broken and mistreated in his/her other relationships that they have been left to a life of watching love from a distance?

If you were not the cause of this irritation of the heart, and you’re words of love are true and undiluted, do you resent his/her for this lack of reciprocation?

Do you see that he/she needs more attention than the average bear but you are being told by friends, family, and others in between that this person is too demanding of you or expecting too much from you?

Could they possibly have ulterior motives because you are of value to their interests?

Maybe this hurt person doesn’t trust in your other online/offline companions because you seem to value their opinions more than your supposed mentions of love. Or because you too have already lied or otherwise deceived them and have gotten off to a bad start.

Until this person has experienced reassurance and a little bit of time with your words and actions, he/she may always push love away as protection from further damage.

Maybe for Valentines Day, instead of superficially well wishing everyone happiness, we can extend ourselves by helping someone to get to the other side of that doubty river. Extending ourselves to show that the “L” word holds true meaning and not just letters that any 3 year old can spell without actual knowledge of what it truly is.

For Valentines Day, how about making the person that you truly care for and love, feel special by your actions and not just your words. Forget what ‘Sally Sue’ says you should do as she’s asking you out to the nearest club for after hours conversation that will lead nowhere accept your empty bed, unfulfilled heart and a future without the one that truly would’ve been grateful to give that real “L” thing back to you.

You’ll be able to look back and say “I’m so glad that I didn’t listen to all my so-called friends who are pathetically lost within their own family life. Now the love of my life has returned my gift ten fold.”

Happy Valentines Day to anyone that reads this. Not because I am one that can receive it without a fight, but because it’s nice to think that my wish for you will mean something.

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